Being a real man

I've been thinking about the way man is addressed in the Bible. I'm not talking about using the term 'man' when often it can mean people in general. I'm talking about when it's definitely male specific.

For instance, Genesis 3, the fall of man. After eating of the fruit God says first to the woman:
To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
About 25 words, two curses (child birth, husband ruling)
To man he says:
To Adam he said, "Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat of it,' "Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken;for dust you are and to dust you will return."
About 60 words, multiple (if related) curses (Painful toil for food, eating 'of the field' instead of 'of the garden', the land producing weeds to oppose him, mortality).

It implies to me that Adam is the one who got them kicked out (note the use of hte word field instead of garden) and Adam is the one who made them mortal. So really it seems to me that man was the more responsible one for the fall. Even was responsible, yes, and she got her due, but it really seems to me like Adam's sin lead to the fall of man, not Eve. Let's you know how the responsibility really fell, eh? Also, notice that Adam was specifically chided for his sin...which seems more than just doing against what God commanded, but in choosing his wife over God. He also failed to protect his wife as it says:
6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.
Adam was there, and did nothing. The first failure, I would say, was that of Adam, not Eve. Man, I believe, had an inherent responsibility having received the commands directly from God (Genesis 2:17) before Eve was around (genesis 2:21-22). And he failed her, then he turned around and failed God. I would even venture a hypothesis that there might have been redemption for Eve had Adam not fallen, but sorry girls, we failed you.

Honestly, I believe that. I believe that if you took any man and placed him in Adam's situation, he'd have done exactly the same thing. We are as equally responsible for the fall as Adam was. That's why we need Christ, period. Everyone of us has failed, and will fail again. And the law condemns us. It is only through Christ's blood that the curse of the Law is removed and we are redeemed. But the responsibility doesn't end there. No, Paul lays it on more thick for us to.

In Ephesians 5 Paul, like Genesis 3, addresses the women first (this time in the context of marriage):
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
About 50 words, requiring 1 thing, physical obedience as a model after the relationship to Christ.

Now the man:
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
About 140 words telling husbands to Love their wives. That's right, action, but even deeper, you must have your heart in it. And actually, ideally if a husband does this the wife's job is easy, because in his love he will do things for her in such a way that she does not have to assert herself. Notice men are also given about 5 verses of admonishment for why this is right, how it is to be done.

I think that there's an implicit push in there for men to step up to the plate and serve their wives. Kind of daunting actually, every man, I suppose, should get 'The Buck Stops Here' engraved on the inside of their wedding ring. This stuff that's kind of been on my mind with the upcoming marriage. God has shown me directly what a responsibility I have to this wonderful lady to whom I am going to forever join myself to. It is an awesome job, for my job requires heart. And Adam showed us what can go wrong if I don't. Actually, I guess I should go ahead right now and apologise to my fiance for my upcoming failures. I'm constantly reminded how human I am, how imperfect next to the perfection of Christ I am. All I can do is apologise, I suppose, and hope I can avoid as many mistakes as possible and learn from the ones I do make.

Anyway, more ramblings, I do ramble a lot.